When should children dating start

28-Jun-2016 06:17

We are not genetically predisposed to deal with such things. Double duty In my house, we allowed dating to start at 9th grade.But for my daughter, the boy had to be willing to go on a "double date" with my husband and I first.Recently, the children of two close friends have begun dating. So I threw the question out there to the World Wide Web: "At what age did you or will you allow your children to start dating? And it made me realize that we, as parents, have a pretty wide range of ideas on what age kids should be allowed to start dating and even on what dating means at various ages." Predictably, two of the three dads who weighed in responded with "Never!" FM, from Los Angeles, Calif., added "Italian father. My head just exploded at the thought." Here's what the rest of the Web had to say about kids and dating: Define dating Dating" or "Hanging out" Big difference these days ... but around 7th [grade], when the dances start, the dating starts.I do not think teenagers know anything about dating.

Then tell them, “Just three more years, and you can date.” Just kidding -- sort of.

They usually hasten to inform me, “All his (her) friends are dating.” My quick answer is: When they’re married, and only with their spouse. Now back in the old days — the early 1980s — you met resistance for such a decision mainly from the children. You can’t wrap a moral bubble around them; they have to deal with life. A recent survey suggested that if a child has a first date between the ages of 11 and 13, he or she has a 90% probability of being sexually active during senior year in high school. Key factors to consider in granting any type of dating freedom are your child’s: • moral maturity • independence of thought • history of conduct in other social settings • strength of will • social judgment • choice of friends • responsibility toward schoolwork • respect for authority.

Seriously, dating age depends upon all kinds of factors, and varies from child to child, even within the same family. Never consider your neighborhood’s “average age” when making your decision. Parents used to expect instinctively to be challenged by their kids, especially in judgments of how fast one should grow up. If you make kids too different, they’ll feel like weirdos who don’t fit in. First date at age 14 leads to a 50% chance; first date at age 16, 20% chance. I figure if I make the list long enough, my kids won’t be eligible to date until they move out.

Depends on the kid - and the date My parents said 16. It also depends on your relationship with your kid and how well you trust him/her, plus the boy/girlfriend and other friends.

The dating sneak attack My Dad always said no dating until I was 16.

Then tell them, “Just three more years, and you can date.” Just kidding -- sort of.They usually hasten to inform me, “All his (her) friends are dating.” My quick answer is: When they’re married, and only with their spouse. Now back in the old days — the early 1980s — you met resistance for such a decision mainly from the children. You can’t wrap a moral bubble around them; they have to deal with life. A recent survey suggested that if a child has a first date between the ages of 11 and 13, he or she has a 90% probability of being sexually active during senior year in high school. Key factors to consider in granting any type of dating freedom are your child’s: • moral maturity • independence of thought • history of conduct in other social settings • strength of will • social judgment • choice of friends • responsibility toward schoolwork • respect for authority.Seriously, dating age depends upon all kinds of factors, and varies from child to child, even within the same family. Never consider your neighborhood’s “average age” when making your decision. Parents used to expect instinctively to be challenged by their kids, especially in judgments of how fast one should grow up. If you make kids too different, they’ll feel like weirdos who don’t fit in. First date at age 14 leads to a 50% chance; first date at age 16, 20% chance. I figure if I make the list long enough, my kids won’t be eligible to date until they move out.Depends on the kid - and the date My parents said 16. It also depends on your relationship with your kid and how well you trust him/her, plus the boy/girlfriend and other friends.The dating sneak attack My Dad always said no dating until I was 16.By the way, my husband was a late bloomer and started dating at 19. A Confused Mother Dear Mother, I completely understand why you are confused.