Purity while dating

26-Nov-2016 12:32

Simply put, God created sex to be pleasurable, that's why our bodies desire it and all the sensations that come with it.

But sex was created to be enjoyed only in the context of marriage between a husband and wife.

Purity is to live a life within the purpose God designed us for. Let's talk about getting physical during dating relationships. Everybody has an opinion, from "don't even make eye contact" to "you can do anything but have sex." How is a Christian teen supposed to know what to do? First things first though, if your parents have said that you are not allowed to date, then you must obey their rules.Proverbs 1:8 says, "Hear, my son, your father's instruction, and forsake not your mother's teaching..." Colossians says, "Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord." Are we cool on that? The old cliché that "one thing leads to another" is really true when it comes to physical intimacy.Dating with a trajectory towards marriage doesn’t mean you only date one person ever. So, if you choose not to get coffee or watch a movie with the opposite sex, then whatever. The ultimate purpose of marriage is sanctification (becoming like God). If you have no idea what values are important to you in a future spouse, exit the road to marriage at the next off ramp. That would be awesome, but it’s not always realistic. If you are a Christian, God isn’t a piece of your pie. Why date someone who doesn’t even have God as a piece of the pie? Pull over at the closest gas station and decide what you want in a future spouse. Your list is designed to give you a framework for dating, not be a checklist for it. Your heart and the holiness of marriage are too important to flippantly give away because you are frustrated, impatient, or settling.

Purity is to live a life within the purpose God designed us for. Let's talk about getting physical during dating relationships. Everybody has an opinion, from "don't even make eye contact" to "you can do anything but have sex." How is a Christian teen supposed to know what to do? First things first though, if your parents have said that you are not allowed to date, then you must obey their rules.Proverbs 1:8 says, "Hear, my son, your father's instruction, and forsake not your mother's teaching..." Colossians says, "Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord." Are we cool on that? The old cliché that "one thing leads to another" is really true when it comes to physical intimacy.Dating with a trajectory towards marriage doesn’t mean you only date one person ever. So, if you choose not to get coffee or watch a movie with the opposite sex, then whatever. The ultimate purpose of marriage is sanctification (becoming like God). If you have no idea what values are important to you in a future spouse, exit the road to marriage at the next off ramp. That would be awesome, but it’s not always realistic. If you are a Christian, God isn’t a piece of your pie. Why date someone who doesn’t even have God as a piece of the pie? Pull over at the closest gas station and decide what you want in a future spouse. Your list is designed to give you a framework for dating, not be a checklist for it. Your heart and the holiness of marriage are too important to flippantly give away because you are frustrated, impatient, or settling. It means dating someone who meets the values and goals you have for a future spouse (more on that later).