Dealing with intimidating behaviour

26-Jan-2016 19:44

On the other hand, passive aggressive behaviors such as sulking, emotional withdrawal, and indirect communication are much more the mark of immature, untamed emotional expression. Passive Aggression is Easily Rationalized A young girl doesn’t feel like cleaning her room.When her parents insist, she pouts first, procrastinates second, and then shoves all of her earthly possessions under her bed.Many of us also see the perfect opportunity to be an emotional airbag or to fix, heal, help – we end up on a pedestal.Even when confronted with code amber behaviour, we don’t process the information, pause, access what it means to us and the relationship that we have in mind or our vision of the other person.The person may also feel that they don’t need to change. “I didn’t want to do this but my brain decided it was a good idea.” That’s because my unwell brain is nothing like my well brain.Whatever the reason- understand that these people can and will pull you under the surface with them if you let them. My unwell brain may scream at me to take a swing at someone who won’t shut up; but I would never do that if I was in a well state of mind. It is a deliberate and masked way of expressing covert feelings of anger (Long, Long & Whitson, 2008) that occurs among both men and women, in all civilized cultures and at every socioeconomic level. This article details seven reasons why passive aggressive behavior thrives in families, schools, relationships, and the workplace. Anger is Socially Unacceptable Anger is a normal, natural human emotion. Passive aggressive behavior is all of these things…and more.

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So before you start looking for faults in your wife; be very sure you are not at fault yourself.The most common response I get to this line of thinking is “I can’t be harsh to my friend/loved one”.I would counter that by pointing out the person running wild in their instability is not your friend or loved one. Your loved one is in there somewhere; but for whatever reason they are presently losing their battle (not the war) with their mental illness.The Jezebel Spirit "There must be no competition among you, no conceit; but everybody is to be self-effacing.Always consider the other person to be better than yourself, so that nobody thinks of his own interest first but everybody thinks of the other people's interests instead." (Philippians 2: 3-4).

So before you start looking for faults in your wife; be very sure you are not at fault yourself.

The most common response I get to this line of thinking is “I can’t be harsh to my friend/loved one”.

I would counter that by pointing out the person running wild in their instability is not your friend or loved one. Your loved one is in there somewhere; but for whatever reason they are presently losing their battle (not the war) with their mental illness.

The Jezebel Spirit "There must be no competition among you, no conceit; but everybody is to be self-effacing.

Always consider the other person to be better than yourself, so that nobody thinks of his own interest first but everybody thinks of the other people's interests instead." (Philippians 2: 3-4).

There are behaviours and situations that get presented in relationships that signal that you need to opt out or at minimum, slow down and address the situation before proceeding.