Dating tips for new relationships

19-Mar-2016 03:01

When we've been burned in a relationship, we go into new relationships a little more wary. "That's a two-edged sword," says relationship coach Amy Schoen. For many of us, our emotional baggage can make finding the right romantic partner a difficult journey.Perhaps you grew up in a household where there was no role model of a solid, healthy relationship and you doubt that such a thing even exists.While being street-smart can help you avoid making the same mistake the next time, "It can also keep you so hyper alert to possible problems that you don't give yourself to a relationship," Schoen says. Work with a therapist to understand how and why you picked your failed marriage. Here are some tips to help you when you're ready to try again.

At any stage, it’s important that you are always yourself.

We all make mistakes, particularly in our love-lives, as relationships are never easy.

But if you can exercise forgiveness in small ways at the start of a love affair then you’re more likely to find ways to forgive the bigger hurts and transgressions, if and when they happen. There are good rows and bad rows but make no mistake – everybody argues.

Or maybe your dating history consists only of brief flings and you don't know how to make a relationship last.

You could be attracted to the wrong type of person or keep making the same bad choices over and over, due to an unresolved issue from your past.

At any stage, it’s important that you are always yourself.We all make mistakes, particularly in our love-lives, as relationships are never easy.But if you can exercise forgiveness in small ways at the start of a love affair then you’re more likely to find ways to forgive the bigger hurts and transgressions, if and when they happen. There are good rows and bad rows but make no mistake – everybody argues.Or maybe your dating history consists only of brief flings and you don't know how to make a relationship last.You could be attracted to the wrong type of person or keep making the same bad choices over and over, due to an unresolved issue from your past.Not so, says University of Chicago Booth School of Business professor Nicholas Epley.